The other day I made an advice thread based on Putanumonit's from last year! If you know a source for one of these, shout and I’ll edit it in.
前几天我根据去年的Putanumonit's发了一个建议帖子!如果你知道其中一个的来源,请告诉我,我会把它编辑进去。
Possessions 财物
1. If you want to find out about people’s opinions on a product, google \
1. 如果你想了解人们对某个产品的看法,可以在谷歌上搜索 \reddit。你会看到真实的人在争论,而不是经过 SEO 优化的谷歌结果。
2. Some banks charge you $20 a month for an account, others charge you 0. If you’re with one of the former, have a good explanation for what those $20 are buying.
一些银行每月对账户收取 20 美元的费用,而其他银行则不收取。如果你在前者之一的银行,最好有一个合理的解释说明这 20 美元的用途。
3. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
3. 你在生活中使用很大一部分时间的东西(床:三分之一,办公椅:四分之一)值得投资。
4. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
4. “好刀在哪里?”如果你在寻找你的好 X,那你就有坏 X。把那些扔掉。
5. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
如果你的工作是在电脑上完成的,建议使用第二个显示器。减少在窗口之间切换的时间意味着有更多时间思考。
6. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
6. 制定明确的规则,关于何时丢弃旧杂物。一旦建立了明确的规则,杂物问题可能就会得到解决。这是因为任何规则都优于我们隐含的规则(“把这个坏音响留五年,以防我学会修理它”)。
7. Don’t buy CDs for people. They have Spotify. Buy them merch from a band they like instead. It’s more personal and the band gets more money.
不要给人买 CD。他们有 Spotify。给他们买他们喜欢的乐队的周边商品更好。这更有个人意义,而且乐队能赚到更多钱。
8. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
8. 购买东西时,时间和金钱相互权衡。如果你缺钱,就花更多时间寻找优惠。如果你时间紧迫,就不要再寻找好交易,直接在线快速购买。
Cooking 烹饪
9. Steeping minutes: Green at 3, black at 4, herbal at 5. Good tea is that simple!
9. 浸泡时间:绿茶 3 分钟,红茶 4 分钟,草本茶 5 分钟。好茶就是这么简单!
10. Food actually can be both cheap, healthy, tasty, and relatively quick to prepare. All it requires is a few hours one day to prepare many meals for the week.
食物实际上可以便宜、健康、美味,并且相对快速地准备。所需的只是一天的几个小时来为一周准备多顿饭。
11. Cooking pollutes the air. Opening windows for a few minutes after cooking can dramatically improve air quality.
11. 烹饪会污染空气。烹饪后打开窗户几分钟可以显著改善空气质量。
12. Food taste can be made much more exciting through simple seasoning. It’s also an opportunity for expression. Buy a few herbs and spices and experiment away.
12. 食物的味道可以通过简单的调味变得更加令人兴奋。这也是一种表达的机会。买一些香草和香料,尽情尝试吧。
13. When googling a recipe, precede it with ‘best’. You’ll find better recipes.
13. 在谷歌搜索食谱时,前面加上“最佳”。你会找到更好的食谱。
Productivity 生产力
14. Advanced search features are a fast way to create tighter search statements. For example:
14. 高级搜索功能是创建更精确搜索语句的快速方法。例如:
img html 图像 html
will return inferior results compared to:
将返回的结果不如:
img html -w3 图像 html -w3
15. You can automate mundane computer tasks with Autohotkey (or AppleScript). If you keep doing a sequence “so simple a computer can do it”, make the computer do it.
15. 你可以使用 Autohotkey(或 AppleScript)来自动化日常计算机任务。如果你不断执行一个“如此简单以至于计算机也能做到”的序列,就让计算机来做吧。
16. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
16. 学习键盘快捷键。它们容易学习,你会更快更轻松地完成任务。
17. Done is better than perfect.
17. 完成比完美更好。
18. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
保持你的桌子和工作空间干净整洁。把每一个物品都视为对你注意力的干扰,因为它确实是。工作空间不是存放物品的地方,而是完成工作的地方。
19. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
19. 在完成挑战后奖励自己,即使做得不好。
Body 身体
20. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
20. 20-20-20 法则:每 20 分钟的屏幕工作,向 20 英尺远的地方看 20 秒。这将减少眼睛疲劳,并且容易记住(或设置提醒)。
21. Exercise (weightlifting) not only creates muscle mass, it also improves skeletal structure. Lift!
21. 运动(举重)不仅能增加肌肉量,还能改善骨骼结构。举起!
22. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
22. 运动是你可以做的最重要的生活方式干预。即使是最低限度(每周 15 分钟)也会产生巨大的影响。小步开始。
23. (~This is not medical advice~). Don’t waste money on multivitamins, they don’t work. Vitamin D supplementation does seem to work, which is important because deficiency is common.
23. (~这不是医疗建议~)。不要在多种维生素上浪费钱,它们没有效果。维生素 D 补充剂似乎有效,这很重要,因为缺乏是很常见的。
24. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
手机在过去十年里变得更重,实际上对你的手腕很有压力!当有替代方案时使用电脑,或者至少尝试支撑你的手机。
Success 成功
25. History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
25. 历史记住那些最先进入市场的人。将你的创作推向世界比使其完美更为重要。
26. Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plunge.
26. 你是否在考虑分手或离开工作?你可能应该去做。人们通常在做出这个决定后会更快乐。
27. Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
27. 自律优于动机。前者可以训练,后者则是短暂的。如果你仅仅依靠动机,你将无法成就伟大的事情。
28. You can improve your communication skills with practice much more effectively than you can improve your intelligence with practice. If you’re not that smart but can communicate ideas clearly, you have a great advantage over everybody who can’t communicate clearly.
28. 通过练习,你可以更有效地提高你的沟通技巧,而不是通过练习提高你的智力。如果你不太聪明,但能够清晰地表达想法,那么你就比那些无法清晰沟通的人拥有更大的优势。
29. You do not live in a video game. There are no pop-up warnings if you’re about to do something foolish, or if you’ve been going in the wrong direction for too long. You have to create your own warnings.
29. 你并不生活在一个视频游戏中。如果你即将做一些愚蠢的事情,或者你已经走错方向太久了,就没有弹出警告。你必须自己创造警告。
30. If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
30. 如果你听成功人士谈论他们的方法,请记住,所有使用相同方法但失败的人并没有制作视频。
31. The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
最好的建议是个人化的,来自了解你的人。根据需要接受这种广泛的建议,但获得帮助的最佳方式是向诚实的、爱你的人求助。
32. Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
32. 让完成事情变得尽可能简单。找到开始锻炼的最简单方法。找到开始写作的最简单方法。人们往往把事情搞得比实际更复杂,当他们无法成功时感到沮丧。尽量不要这样。
33. Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
培养可靠的声誉。良好的声誉是宝贵的,因为它们稀有(容易被破坏且难以重建)。如果顾客知道咖啡总是热的,你就不必冲泡最美味的咖啡。
34. How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
34. 你如何度过每一天,就是你如何度过你的一生。
Rationality 理性
35. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has much higher pay-off.
35. 注意到他人的偏见很容易,注意到自己的偏见却很困难。然而,这带来的回报要高得多。
36. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
36. 解释问题是好的。在阐述问题的过程中,解决方案常常会自然而然地出现。
37. Foolish people are right about most things. Endeavour to not let the opinions of foolish people automatically discredit those opinions.
37. 愚蠢的人在大多数事情上是正确的。努力不要让愚蠢的人的观点自动贬低那些观点。
38. You have a plan. A time-traveller from 2030 appears and tells you your plan failed. Which part of your plan do you think is the one that fails? Fix that part.
38. 你有一个计划。来自 2030 年的时间旅行者出现并告诉你你的计划失败了。你认为你的计划中哪一部分是失败的?修正那部分。
39. If something surprises you again and again, stop being surprised.
如果某件事一次又一次地让你感到惊讶,那就不要再惊讶了。
40. Should you freak out upon seeing your symptoms on the worst diseases on WebMD? Probably not! Look up the base rates for the disease and then apply Bayes’ Theorem
40. 看到自己在 WebMD 上出现的最严重疾病的症状时,你应该感到恐慌吗?可能不需要!查一下该疾病的基本发生率,然后应用贝叶斯定理。
41. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
41. 自私的人应该听取建议,变得更加无私;无私的人应该听取建议,变得更加自私。这适用于许多事情。每当你收到建议时,也要考虑其相反的意见。你可能正在过滤掉你最需要的建议。
42. Common systems and tools have been designed so everybody can handle them. So don’t worry that you’re the only one who can’t! You can figure out doing laundry, baking, and driving on a highway.
42. 常见的系统和工具已经设计得让每个人都能使用。所以不要担心你是唯一一个不会的人!你可以学会洗衣服、烘焙和在高速公路上驾驶。
Self 自我
43. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
缺陷并不会让你特别。你越老,不能做饭的能力就越会成为人们的警示信号。
44. There is no interpersonal situation that can’t be improved by knowing more about your desires, goals, and structure. ‘Know thyself!’
44. 没有任何人际关系是无法通过了解自己的欲望、目标和结构而改善的。‘认识你自己!’
45. If you’re under 90, try things.
45. 如果你不到 90 岁,尝试一些事情。
46. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
46. 不是你过错的事情仍然可以是你的责任。
47. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
47. 通过痛苦来定义自己是一种有效的方式,让痛苦永远存在(例如,单身男性,创伤)。
48. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
保持你的身份小。 “我不是那种做那种事情的人”并不是解释,而是一个陷阱。它阻止了书呆子锻炼和男人跳舞。
49. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’
不要把“因为我喜欢做某事”与“因为我想被看作是那种做这种事的人”混淆。
50. Remember that you are dying.
50. 记住你正在死去。
51. Events can hurt us, not just our perceptions of them. It’s good to build resilience, but sometimes it isn’t your fault if something really gets to you.
事件可以伤害我们,而不仅仅是我们对它们的看法。培养韧性是好的,但有时候如果某件事真的让你受到影响,这并不是你的错。
52. If you want to become funny, try just saying stupid shit (in the right company!) until something sticks.
如果你想变得幽默,试着在合适的场合说些愚蠢的话,直到有些话能引起共鸣。
53. To start defining your problems, say (out loud) “everything in my life is completely fine.” Notice what objections arise.
53. 要开始定义你的问题,口头说出“我生活中的一切都很好。”注意出现的反对意见。
54. Procrastination comes naturally, so apply it to bad things. “I want to hurt myself right now. I’ll do it in an hour.” “I want a smoke now, so in half an hour I’ll go have a smoke.” Then repeat. Much like our good plans fall apart while we delay them, so can our bad plans.
拖延是自然而然的,所以把它应用到坏事上。“我现在想伤害自己。我会在一个小时后再做。” “我现在想抽烟,所以半小时后我会去抽烟。” 然后重复。就像我们的好计划在拖延中崩溃一样,我们的坏计划也可以如此。
55. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
55. 个人的顿悟感觉很好,但它们在几周内就会消退。在获得顿悟后,制定一个计划并开始真正改变行为。
56. Sometimes unsolvable questions like “what is my purpose?” and “why should I exist?” lose their force upon lifestyle fixes. In other words, seeing friends regularly and getting enough sleep can go a long way to solving existentialism.
56. 有时像“我的目的是什么?”和“我为什么要存在?”这样无法解决的问题在生活方式的改善下会失去它们的力量。换句话说,定期见朋友和充足的睡眠可以在很大程度上解决存在主义的问题。
Hazards 危害
57. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
57. 有两个红旗可以避免几乎所有危险的人:1. 永远感到委屈的人;2. 愤怒的人。
58. Some people create drama out of habit. You can avoid these people.
有些人出于习惯制造戏剧。你可以避免这些人。
59. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
那些让你感到焦虑并承诺有解决方案的人是骗子。参见:政治家、营销人员、新男性主义导师等。避免这些。
60. (~This is not legal advice!~)
60. (~这不是法律建议!~)
DO NOT TALK TO COPS.
不要和警察说话。
61. It is cheap for people to talk about their values, goals, rules, and lifestyle. When people’s actions contradict their talk, pay attention!
61. 人们谈论他们的价值观、目标、规则和生活方式是很便宜的。当人们的行为与他们的言论相矛盾时,请注意!
62. “If they’ll do it with you, they’ll do it to you” and “those who live by the sword die by the sword” mean the same thing. Viciousness you excuse in yourself, friends, or teammates will one day return to you, and then you won’t have an excuse.
62. “如果他们愿意和你一起做,他们也会对你这样做”和“以剑为生者必死于剑下”意思相同。你在自己、朋友或队友身上所原谅的恶行,总有一天会回到你身上,那时你将无言以对。
Others 其他人
63. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
在选择与 0-1 人居住还是与 2 人或更多人居住时,请记住,和多个室友一起生活时,确定责任将不再是瞬间的(“这些碗碟是谁的?”)。
64. Understand people have the right to be tasteless.
64. 理解人们有权利没有品味。
65. You will prevent yourself from even having thoughts that could lower your status. Avoid blocking yourself off just so people keep thinking you’re cool.
65. 你会阻止自己产生可能降低你地位的想法。避免为了让别人觉得你很酷而封闭自己。
66. Being in groups is important. If you don’t want to join a sports team, consider starting a shitty band. It’s the closest you’ll get to being in an RPG. Train with 2-4 other characters, learn new moves, travel from pub to pub, and get quests from NPCs.
66. 组队很重要。如果你不想加入运动队,可以考虑组建一个糟糕的乐队。这是你最接近角色扮演游戏的体验。和 2-4 个其他角色一起训练,学习新技能,从酒吧到酒吧旅行,并从 NPC 那里接任务。
67. It’s possible to get people to do things that make you like them more but respect them less. Avoid this, it destroys relationships.
67. 让人们做一些让你更喜欢他们但更不尊重他们的事情是可能的。避免这样,这会破坏关系。
68. Think a little about why you enjoy what you enjoy. If you can explain what you love about Dune, you can now communicate not only with Dune fans, but with people who love those aspects in other books.
68. 想一想你为什么喜欢你所喜欢的东西。如果你能解释你喜欢《沙丘》的原因,你就不仅能与《沙丘》的粉丝交流,还能与喜欢其他书中那些方面的人交流。
69. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.
当你问人们:“你最喜欢的书/电影/乐队是什么?”他们犹豫时,可以问他们目前最喜欢的书/电影/乐队是什么。他们几乎总会有一个,并能谈论它。
70. Bored people are boring.
70. 无聊的人很无聊。
71. A norm of eating with your family without watching something will lead to better conversations. If this idea fills you with dread, consider getting a new family.
71. 与家人一起吃饭而不看东西的规范将促进更好的对话。如果这个想法让你感到恐惧,考虑换一个家庭。
72. If you bus to other cities, consider finding a rideshare on Facebook instead. It’s cheaper, faster, and leads to interesting conversations.
如果你乘公交车去其他城市,考虑在 Facebook 上找拼车。这样更便宜、更快,还能引发有趣的对话。
Relationships 关系
73. In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
在关系中寻找一个你可以享受在一起闲逛的人。长期关系大多数时间都是在放松中度过的。
74. Sometimes things last a long time because they’re good (jambalaya). But that doesn’t mean that because something has lasted a long time that it is good (penile subincisions). Apply this to relationships, careers, and beliefs as appropriate.
74. 有时候事物之所以能持续很长时间是因为它们很好(香肠饭)。但这并不意味着某样东西持续了很长时间就一定是好的(阴茎切割)。将这一点应用于人际关系、职业和信仰等方面。
75. Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
75. 不要在同事或网上抱怨你的伴侣。好处微乎其微,而代价是摧毁你灵魂的一部分。
76. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
76. 分手后,尽快停止所有联系。戏剧化的可能性是无穷无尽的,而建立良好友谊的可能性微乎其微。等一年再尝试做朋友。
77. If you haven’t figured things out sexually, remember that there isn’t a deadline. If somebody is making you feel like there is, consider the possibility that they aren’t your pal.
77. 如果你还没有弄清楚性方面的事情,请记住没有截止日期。如果有人让你觉得有截止日期,考虑一下他们可能不是你的朋友。
78. If you have trouble talking during dates, try saying whatever comes into your head. At worst you’ll ruin some dates (which weren’t going well anyways), at best you’ll have some great conversations. Alcohol can help.
如果你在约会时说话有困难,试着说出你脑海中想到的任何事情。最糟糕的情况是你会毁掉一些约会(反正也不太顺利),最好的情况是你会有一些很棒的对话。酒精可以帮助。
79. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
79. 在约会时,淡化你的怪癖会让 90%的人觉得你还不错。强调你的怪癖会让 10%的人觉得你很迷人和有趣。那些人对和你约会感兴趣。瞄准他们。
80. Relationships need novelty. It’s hard to have novelty during Covid—but have you planned your post-Covid adventure yet?
80. 关系需要新鲜感。在新冠疫情期间很难保持新鲜感——但你计划好疫情后的冒险了吗?
81. People can be the wrong fit for you without being bad. Being a person is complicated and hard.
人们可能不适合你,但并不意味着他们不好。做一个人是复杂而困难的。
Compassion 同情
82. Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
82. 想到父母时给他们打电话,爱朋友时告诉他们。
83. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
多赞美别人。许多人在没有别人告诉他们的情况下,很难认为自己聪明、漂亮或善良。你可以帮助他们。
84. If somebody is undergoing group criticism, the tribal part in you will want to join in the fun of righteously destroying somebody. Resist this, you’ll only add ugliness to the world. And anyway, they’ve already learned the lesson they’re going to learn and it probably isn’t the lesson you want.
如果有人正在接受集体批评,你内心的部落本能会想要参与到正义地毁灭某人的乐趣中。抵制这种冲动,你只会给世界增添丑陋。无论如何,他们已经学到了他们要学的教训,而这可能并不是你想要的教训。
85. Cultivate compassion for those less intelligent than you. Many people, through no fault of their own, can’t handle forms, scammers, or complex situations. Be kind to them because the world is not.
85. 培养对那些智力不如你的人同情心。许多人并非出于自己的过错,无法处理表格、骗子或复杂的情况。对他们要友善,因为这个世界并不友善。
86. Cultivate patience for difficult people. Communication is extremely complicated and involves getting both tone and complex ideas across. Many people can barely do either. Don’t punish them.
86. 培养对困难人群的耐心。沟通非常复杂,涉及到语气和复杂思想的传达。许多人几乎无法做到这两点。不要惩罚他们。
87. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
87. 不要因为人们尝试而惩罚他们。你是在教他们不再尝试。惩罚包括抱怨他们花了太长时间,做得不好,或者其他人做得更好。
88. Remember that many people suffer invisibly, and some of the worst suffering is shame. Not everybody can make their pain legible.
88. 记住,许多人在无形中受苦,而一些最严重的痛苦是羞耻。并不是每个人都能让他们的痛苦显而易见。
89. Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
不要惩罚那些承认自己错了的人,这会让他们更难改进。
90. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
一般来说,你会寻找借口不对人友善。抵制这些借口。
Joy 喜悦
91. Human mood and well-being are heavily influenced by simple things: Exercise, good sleep, light, being in nature. It’s cheap to experiment with these.
人类的情绪和幸福感受到简单事物的重大影响:锻炼、良好的睡眠、光线、置身于大自然中。尝试这些方法成本低廉。
92. You have vanishingly little political influence and every thought you spend on politics will probably come to nothing. Consider building things instead, or at least going for a walk.
92。你在政治上几乎没有影响力,你对政治的每一个想法可能都无济于事。考虑去创造一些东西,或者至少去散步。
93. Sturgeon’s law states that 90% of everything is crap. If you dislike poetry, or fine art, or anything, it’s possible you’ve only ever seen the crap. Go looking!
93. 斯特金定律指出,90%的事物都是垃圾。如果你不喜欢诗歌、或美术,或任何东西,可能你只见过那些垃圾。去寻找吧!
94. You don’t have to love your job. Jobs can be many things, but they’re also a way to make money. Many people live fine lives in okay jobs by using the money they make on things they care about.
你不必热爱你的工作。工作可以有很多种形式,但它们也是赚钱的一种方式。许多人通过将他们赚的钱用于自己关心的事情,在普通的工作中过着不错的生活。
95. Some types of sophistication won’t make you enjoy the object more, they’ll make you enjoy it less. For example, wine snobs don’t enjoy wine twice as much as you, they’re more keenly aware of how most wine isn’t good enough. Avoid sophistication that diminishes your enjoyment.
95. 某些类型的复杂性不会让你更享受这个物品,反而会让你享受得更少。例如,酒迷并不会比你更享受酒,他们更敏锐地意识到大多数酒并不够好。避免那些会减少你享受的复杂性。
96. If other people having it worse than you means you can’t be sad, then other people having it better than you would mean you can’t be happy. Feel what you feel.
如果其他人比你过得更糟就意味着你不能感到悲伤,那么其他人比你过得更好就意味着你不能感到快乐。感受你所感受到的。
97. Liking and wanting things are different. There are things like junk food that you want beyond enjoyment. But you can also like things (like reading) without wanting them. If you remember enjoying something but don't feel a desire for it now, try pushing yourself.
97. 喜欢和想要是不同的。有些东西,比如垃圾食品,你想要的超出了享受。但你也可以喜欢一些东西(比如阅读),而不想要它们。如果你记得曾经享受过某样东西,但现在没有渴望,试着推动自己。
98. People don’t realize how much they hate commuting. A nice house farther from work is not worth the fraction of your life you are giving to boredom and fatigue.
98. 人们没有意识到他们有多讨厌通勤。离工作较远的好房子并不值得你为无聊和疲惫而付出的生命的一小部分。
99. There’s some evidence that introverts and extroverts both benefit from being pushed to be more extroverted. Consider this the next time you aren’t sure if you feel like going out.
99. 有一些证据表明,内向者和外向者都能从被推动变得更加外向中受益。下次当你不确定是否想出去时,可以考虑这一点。
100. Bad things happen dramatically (a pandemic). Good things happen gradually (malaria deaths dropping annually) and don’t feel like ‘news’. Endeavour to keep track of the good things to avoid an inaccurate and dismal view of the world.
100. 坏事发生得很戏剧化(如疫情)。好事则逐渐发生(如疟疾死亡人数逐年下降),并且不觉得像“新闻”。努力关注好事,以避免对世界产生不准确和悲观的看法。