Happiness
幸福
1. You don’t have to love your job. Jobs are a way to make money. Many people live fine lives in okay jobs by using the money they make on things they care about.
1.你不必热爱你的工作。工作是赚钱的一种方式。许多人通过将赚来的钱花在自己关心的事情上,从事着不错的工作,过着美好的生活。
2. Sturgeon’s law states that 90% of everything is crap. If you dislike poetry, or fine art, or anything, it’s possible you’ve only ever seen the crap. Go looking!
2 .斯特金定律指出,90% 的事物都是垃圾。如果你不喜欢诗歌、美术或任何东西,那么你可能只见过垃圾。去寻找吧!
3. People don’t realize how much they hate commuting. A nice house farther from work is not worth the fraction of your life you are giving to boredom and fatigue.
3 .人们没有意识到他们有多么讨厌通勤。远离工作地点的好房子不值得你把生活中的一小部分时间花在无聊和疲劳上。
4. There’s some evidence that introverts and extroverts both benefit from being pushed to be more extroverted. Consider this the next time you aren’t sure if you feel like going out.
4 .有一些证据表明,内向者和外向者都可以从被迫变得更加外向中受益。下次当您不确定是否想出去时,请考虑这一点。
Success
成功
5. History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
5 .历史会记住那些最先进入市场的人。将您的创作推向世界比使其完美更重要。
6. Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plunge.
6 .您是否在分手或离职方面犹豫不决?你或许应该继续去做。平均而言,人们在冒险时最终会更快乐。
7. Done is better than perfect.
7 .完成比完美更好。
8. Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
8.纪律优于激励。前者是可以训练的,后者是转瞬即逝的。如果你仅仅依靠动力,你将无法完成伟大的事情。
9. You can improve your communication skills with practice much more effectively than you can improve your intelligence with practice. If you’re not that smart but can communicate ideas clearly, you have a great advantage over everybody who can’t communicate clearly.
9.通过练习提高你的沟通技巧比通过练习提高你的智力更有效。如果你不那么聪明,但可以清晰地表达想法,那么你比那些不能清晰表达的人有很大的优势。
10. You do not live in a video game. There are no pop-up warnings if you’re about to do something foolish, or if you’ve been going in the wrong direction for too long. You have to create your own warnings.
10.你不是生活在电子游戏中。如果您要做一些愚蠢的事情,或者您已经走错方向太久了,那么不会弹出警告。您必须创建自己的警告。
11. If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
11 .如果您听成功人士谈论他们的方法,请记住,所有使用相同方法但失败的人都没有制作相关视频。
12. The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
12. 最好的建议是针对个人的,来自熟悉你的人。根据需要接受此类广泛的建议,但获得帮助的最佳方法是询问爱你的诚实朋友。
13. Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
13. 让完成事情尽可能简单。找到开始锻炼的最简单方法。找到开始写作的最简单方法。人们让事情变得比他们必须的更困难,当他们不能成功时就会感到沮丧。尽量不要这样做。
14. Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
14. 培养可靠的声誉。良好的声誉之所以珍贵,是因为它们很稀有(容易被摧毁,很难重建)。如果您的顾客知道咖啡永远是热的,您就不必煮出最美味的咖啡。
15. How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
15 .你怎样度过每一天,你就怎样度过一生。
Relationships
人际关系
16. In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
16. 在人际关系中寻找一个你可以享受在一起闲逛的人。长期的关系大多只是在寒冷中度过。
17. Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
17.不要向同事或网上抱怨你的伴侣。好处是微不足道的,代价是摧毁你的灵魂。
18. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
18. 分手后,尽快停止所有联系。戏剧的潜力是无穷无尽的,而建立良好友谊的潜力则可以忽略不计。等一年再尝试再次成为朋友。
19. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
19 .约会时,淡化你的怪癖会让 90% 的人认为你还不错。强调你的怪癖会让 10% 的人认为你迷人且有趣。这些人有兴趣和你约会。瞄准他们。
20. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
20. 几乎所有危险人物都有两个危险信号需要避开: 1. 永远受委屈的人; 2. 永远受委屈的人; 2. 生气的人。
21. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
21.那些让你感到焦虑并承诺他们有解决办法的人都是骗子。请参阅:政客、营销人员、新男性气概大师等。避免这些。
Body
22. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
23. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
24. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
Productivity
25. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
26. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
27. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
Rationality
28. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has a much higher pay-off.
29. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
30. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
Compassion
31.Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
32. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
33. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
34.Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
35. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
Possessions
36. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
37. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
38. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
39. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
40. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
Self
41. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
42. If you’re under 90, try things.
43. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
44. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
45. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
46. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’.
47. Remember that you are dying.
48. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
Others
49. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
50. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.